Your Front Seat

Welcome to Letters of Wonder — a space to explore the truths behind clarity, creation, and what it means to live a truly wonderful life.

This essay style is inspired by Shaan Puri’s Power Brokers.

Let’s start with a question:

What actually brings the right things — or people — into your life?

a) Being super social

b) Saying yes to every opportunity

c) Knowing the right people

d) Becoming the best at something

e) Reading more self-help books

Trick question.

I’d argue it’s f) None of the above.

The right things don’t come from forcing or chasing.

They come when you stop leaking energy to the wrong ones.

So how do you figure out how to stop leaking energy?

Here’s an image to help you figure that out.

Finding what lights you up

You often don’t know what moves your soul — until you stumble into it.

Let’s say you grew up singing in a choir.

Everyone around you is singing devotional songs.

So naturally, you pick it up too.

But one day, you try rapping — just for fun.

And something clicks.

You feel alive in a way you never have before.

Now when your group invites you to sing in the choir… you say no… and go freestyle instead.

You’re not saying no to them — you’re just saying yes to yourself.

You’re leaning more towards what actually lights you up.

And maybe you find a few buddies who share your interest of free-styling.

The Life Van Theory

Here’s a cool framework I love:

It’s called the Life Van Theory (and yes… I heard it on TikTok).

Imagine you're driving a van.

Your forever friends are in the van with you.

They will always will be.

But maybe not in the front seat anymore (or maybe they still are).

Some sit in the middle.

Some in the back.

Maybe a few stay up front.

But the point is: you make space for new passengers.

And that’s okay.

Because as you keep driving and changing (aka finding who/what lights you up), new people are coming onboard.

Yes, this is a big van.

Of course, this doesn’t mean you go ghost mode.

You don’t need to burn the old bridge to walk a new path.

At first, change might feel heavy and guilt creeps in.

You don’t even want to bring it up.

But open, honest communication helps way more than you think.

You just take the new bridge.

You can grow apart… and still love people or old activities you used to do.

The people who really care about you will understand.

Because when you start saying yes to what makes you feel alive, you give others permission to do the same.

That’s not disconnection.

It’s evolution.